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Ask Sarita: Staying Centred

Sarita loves to answer your questions, so if there’s something you’d like her advice on, please email her and let her know if you are happy for it to be published (you can remain anonymous). Here she answers a question on: staying centred in relationship.
Dear Sarita,
I have meditated for many years and can reach deep states of peace through my practise. But I still find relationships volatile at times and can get all too quickly knocked out of my center. Can Tantra help with this?
With love,
Dear David,
Meditation can be applied to any aspect of living or dying. When we practise meditation alone, we can find inner peace and harmony within ourselves. However, this may not be enough to bring peace and harmony in the relationship dynamic, where two people are involved. It has been my experience that if you want to find harmony and bliss in the couple, it is essential that the couple practise meditation ‘as a couple’. This will have a highly beneficial effect on the relationship. I have been teaching a seven level Tantra Couples training for many years. It is so beautiful to see the miracles which happen as a result of the couple practising Tantra meditation together. It affects every facet of the relationship for the better, whether that be in their communication, their sexuality or the deepening of their love.
I have met so many people who are meditators and are very confused as to why, even after many years, they still have disharmony in their relationships. I used to be one of those people, so I can understand your question! Practising Tantra meditations as a couple is a revolution in love and relating. It creates the phenomenon of ‘rising in love.’
The reason why the other is significant in Tantra is because in Tantra, the other is seen and experienced as a door into union with our own inner male female aspects, and also because through learning the language of orgasm, we can more easily melt into the orgasm with the universe. In addition to this, Tantra will always use what is the case, as an entry into expanded consciousness. Instead of running away from relationships and the world, the Tantric practitioner takes on the challenge and brings awareness to those areas of life normally thought to be troublesome for the seeker. By bringing awareness to it, those areas of life are transformed into their divine potential. This is why Tantra is known as the path that transforms poison into nectar.
Love Sarita x

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