Ecstatic Union

Liu I-ming (Taoist Master)

Men and women are designed by nature to help each other on the path, whether that be the path of passionate sexuality or the path of spirituality. Let us explore why and how this is so.

The Magic of Being a Woman

The body of woman is the greatest treasure, containing an innate capacity for ecstasy and love. We are indeed similar to a very refined musical instrument.

To create exquisite music, the artist of love tunes the instrument and subsequently, heavenly music emerges. If the instrument of a woman’s body is tuned rightly, her body becomes the abode of bliss and her lover is blessed beyond measure.

On several occasions, my lovers have told me, “You are like a Stradivarius violin!” Perhaps they said this because when I am rightly tuned, I sing, laugh, cry and pray while engaged in sexual union. For me, sexual union is a holy actand my bed is a temple. Being a devotee of the Tantra path, I have found that all the secrets of creation reside in love’s embrace.

Some biological facts which support my poetic description of female sexuality are:

The clitoris and clitoral network have 5 – 8 thousand nerve endings devoted only to pleasure. These nerves form a highly sophisticated network all over a woman’s body. This gives woman the potential for her whole body to feel like one giant clitoris.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused and in her orgasmic flow, her orgasms link to the higher brain center, giving rise to a DMT experience during which she feels herself dissolving into God.

Women are capable of many types of orgasmic experiences, such as clitoral orgasmic joy / chain orgasms / multiple orgasms / full body orgasm / cosmic orgasm and Amrita

The Portal of Spirituality for Women is Pleasure

The fact that women are sensually oriented has been demonised by patriarchy for at least 2000 years. Tertullian, one of the founding fathers of Christianity writes of women as follows: “You are the gateway of the devil.”

As we all know, men in general have only one orgasm and immediately afterwards have to rest and recharge. A man’s orgasmic pleasure remains localised in his genitals and it can also link to the instinctual, reptile part of his brain. In order for his orgasmic experience to reach to higher brain centers he needs to work on refining his ability to be attuned to subtle energy through the practice of Tantra.

This may be the reason that the patriarchy has suppressed woman and condemned her so harshly. Perhaps the suppression of the feminine by the masculine is linked to jealousy. He cannot attain to her level of communion with God so easily as she does through sexual union. He has to work at what comes easily and naturally to her.

Woman as Initiatress

Tantra has very wisely recognised woman as the initiatress for man. Through her, he can learn to open his chakra system to the ascent of kundalini, allowing his sexual energy to link to superconscious states.

I have heard Osho say that the spiritual path has only two steps. The first step is very challenging for men and very easy for women. This is why women are the initiatress for men for the first step. The first step is surrender, a heart centred state of being.

Man as Initiator

The second step is very easy for men and very challenging for women. Therefore, men are the initiator for women for the second step on the spiritual path. The second step is meditation, witnessing, aloneness and the void.

Tuning a Woman

Learning Tantric sexuality practices is an art and a science. For a woman to become ready to function as initiatress, she needs to be tuned properly.

Her tuning may include:

Soft lighting, sensorial awakening through eye gazing, caress, compliments, gift giving, pleasing scents and tastes. As her senses are activated, the nerves all over her body which link to the clitoral network are switched on and through this, she surrenders herself, body and soul to her lover. As her surrender deepens, her erogenous zones open like a flower and her musk is released. This in turn drives her lover crazy with desire.

Tuning a Man

For the masculine to be rightly tuned, erotic play before sexual union will include honouring and worshipping of the lingam, offering flowers to the lingam, caressing it, praising, chanting mantras, praying and other devotional acts. As this is happening, a man will very naturally enter into resonance with his manhood and from there, his whole being will light up like a radiant sun.

In order for the sexual union to progress in a way that will be fulfilling for both male and female, it is best if the man has been prepared ahead of time in regards to conservation of semen practice. In this way, he will be able to last longer and while engaged in coitus, he will be able to channel his energy in and up through his central channel. When male and female allow energy to rise through the central channel during sexual union, their orgasmic joy will expand to all of the chakras and they will be able to experience cosmic orgasm together.

Following the woman’s lead, the male partner can learn to surf her orgasmic waves, which will take him progressively higher in his consciousness. As he masters this art, his sexual energy will at last merge with his crown chakra and he will discover his own portal into Godliness.

Love is the Greatest School

Love is the greatest school offered by life. When we learn to master the art of pleasure and love we have indeed attained a great jewel which no outer riches can compare to. The art of love should be taught in school, progressively refining what is learned, preparing students for the real challenge of life, namely, how to be successful in relationship. Human happiness depends on this.

By diving into what I am indicating, all the secrets of heaven and earth will be revealed. Our spirituality is simply a mirror of our sexuality just as our body, the microcosm is a mirror of the macrocosm. In Tantra, there is a saying, “Sex and samadhi are one.” When we explore sexuality as a sacred act, knowing that it is a mirror of universal energy, we will find God residing in our sexual union. We will discover that the feminine is a portal into the masculine and the masculine is a portal into the feminine. Through this meeting and merging of opposites, we discover the infinite in the finite. This is the true lesson we have come to this earth to learn.

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