What is Tantric Sex? Techniques, Benefits, & Positions To Try

Have you ever wondered what the secrets are behind a deeply fulfilling sex life and mind-blowing orgasms? The kind that leaves you breathless, weak in the knees, and utterly satisfied? Prepare to unlock the mysteries of Tantric sex – an ancient Indian practice that promises to take your intimacy and pleasure to heights you’ve only dreamed of.

Tantric sexuality is one of the many practices contained in the ancient teachings of Tantra, a path to spiritual enlightenment. By harnessing the power of breath, energy, and presence, tantric sex practitioners can experience orgasmic energy that ripples through every fiber of their being, lasting for minutes or even hours on end.

But Tantra isn’t just about the pursuit of pleasure. It’s a gateway to emotional and physical healing, a way to deepen your connection with your partner, and a means to explore the vast realms of your own consciousness.

What Is Tantric Sex?

 

 

 

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Tantric sex has its roots in the ancient spiritual path known as Tantra, which views sexual energy as a powerful force that can be harnessed for intimacy, transcendence, and enlightenment. Unlike conventional sexuality focused solely on a genital release, tantric sex emphasizes energy cultivation, presence, and mindfulness during the sexual experience.

Traditionalists would undergo years of preparation before engaging in tantric sexual practices under the guidance of a master. In modern times, however, many explore tantric sexuality more directly, through balanced teachings which often integrate emotional intimacy, meditation, and other practices.

What Happens During Tantric Sex?

Some key elements of Tantric lovemaking include:

• Awakening kundalini energy by opening the central channel from the perineum to the crown.
• Slowing down and focusing on sensations over rushing toward orgasm.
• Synchronizing breathing patterns between partners
• Using tantric massage to build intimacy and arousal.
• Circulating sexual energy throughout the entire body.
• Achieving extended pleasure by “surfing” waves of yin/yang energy.
• Entering altered trance-like states of consciousness.
• Exploring varying rhythms and pacing.
• Incorporating rituals like eye-gazing.
• Trying energy-raising practices like bandhas (internal muscular locks).
• Experimenting with positions that facilitate deeper connection.
• Practicing the yab-yum position, a classic tantric sex position that represents the union of masculine and feminine energies, suitable for breathwork, Chakra alignment, mindful kissing, and adaptable for penetrative sex.
• Experiencing simultaneous or multiple full-body orgasms.
• Achieving a blissful, meditative state after extended lovemaking.

Myths About Tantric Sex

1. Tantric Sex Lasts for Hours or Days on End

While Tantric lovemaking sessions can potentially last longer than typical encounters by building and circulating sexual energy, this doesn't necessarily mean they go on indefinitely for hours or days at a time.

While wild rumors may abound about tantric marathons lasting days, in reality tantric practices can be integrated into one's lifestyle. Some sessions may extend for several hours, but shorter tantric lovemaking practices around an hour are also possible.

2. Tantric Sex Requires Complicated Rituals or Esoteric Knowledge

The practices of Tantric sex have spiritual roots, but the sexual techniques themselves can be relatively simple and intuitive once the basic principles are understood. Tantra is about returning to our true nature by listening to the body and heart. While it involves gaining new insights, at its core it’s about integrating tantric principles into daily life in an easy, natural way. Basic principles include the weaving together of witnessing and meditation with love and devotion.

One can explore the practices of tantric sex by focusing on the spiritual and emotional connections, intertwining spirituality and sexuality, and practicing tantric techniques to connect with oneself and one's partner on a deeper level.

3. You Must be Physically Flexible or Able to Perform Advanced Positions

Contrary to popular belief, intense yoga-like contortions or advanced sexual positions are not a requirement for Tantric sex. Common positions can be adapted with the Tantric mindset of energy cultivation, presence and intimacy. Flexibility is helpful but not essential.

4. Tantric Sex is Only about Delaying or Avoiding Orgasm

While orgasm control is one component of Tantric sexual practices, the aims go beyond merely delaying climax. Tantric sex can also allow partners to celebrate and actually intensify orgasmic experiences, including during penetrative sex, when appropriate through extended energy cultivation.

5. Tantric Sex is Just About Sexual Gratification.

The pursuit of pleasure is certainly part of Tantric sexuality, but the practice holds deeper spiritual goals as well. Beyond physical gratification, the physical act of tantric intimacy aims to unite partners on a soul level and give access to higher, transcendent states of consciousness.

How Tantric Sex and Sexual Energy Work in Relationships

When a couple practices Tantra in intimacy, every aspect of their relationship is heightened. They are able to discover conscious communication, conscious touch, heightened sensitivity and pleasure, and expanded consciousness. By incorporating the practice of tantric sex, couples can focus on being present in the moment, tuning out distractions, and creating deep, intimate connections. This practice helps in understanding one's own body and the body of one's partner, enhancing the overall experience.

Tantra acts as a magical alchemy, promoting healthy relationships and deep fulfillment on emotional, spiritual, and physical levels. By fostering profound intimacy, presence, and attunement, tantric practices can significantly deepen the emotional and spiritual connections between partners.

What Are the Benefits of Exploring Tantric Sex and Sacred Sexuality?

1. Increased intimacy and emotional connection with your partner

Tantric practices like eye gazing, synchronized breathing, and energy circulation techniques help couples feel more deeply bonded and intimately attuned to each other. These practices are central to sacred sexuality, which redefines sex to be sexual activities that prioritize intimacy, connection, and playful possibilities, providing a glimpse of divinity through moments of communion and a melting of the egoic self.

2. More intense, full-body orgasms

By circulating sexual energy throughout the entire body and practicing techniques like pompoir, Tantric sex can lead to more expansive, mindful, full-body orgasmic sexual experiences.

3. Greater sexual confidence and control

The emphasis on breath work, muscle control like bandhas, and present-moment awareness can help people become more attuned to their arousal patterns and last longer before orgasm.

4. Reduced stress and increased mindfulness

The slow, sensual, ritualistic pace of tantric lovemaking provides a powerful meditation practice for reducing stress and increasing mindfulness.

5. Enhanced vitality and life force energy

Some tantric traditions suggest that tantric sexual practices allow you to harness, cultivate, and circulate your kundalini or vital life force energy, leading to overall increased vigor and vitality.

How to Try Tantric Sex Alone

Tantric Sex For Women

Self-Pleasure Date

• Make a special "date" just for yourself. Dress up, have a nice meal or activity that makes you feel pampered.
• When you get home, slowly undress while admiring yourself in the mirror and appreciating your beauty.
• Make love to yourself without rushing, exploring your entire body with tantric massage and self-pleasuring techniques.
• Celebrate and worship yourself as a divine, sexy goddess.

Sensual Self-Discovery

• Set aside weekly "self-discovery" time to explore your body with total innocence, as if experiencing it for the first time.
• Use a mirror to intimately examine your genitals, taking time to appreciate the beauty and sacredness of your yoni (vagina).
• Explore different pleasuring techniques - caressing, squeezing, varied rhythms - and discover what arouses you most.
• Notice how pleasure dynamics shift throughout your menstrual cycle.

Tantric Sex For Men

Full-Body Energy Orgasm

• Instead of just focusing on the genitals to ejaculate, use loving touch all over the lingam (penis/genitals) and surrounding areas to awaken sexual energy circulation.
• As arousal builds, allow your body to move spontaneously - writhing, arching your back, making sounds. This opens the second chakra.
• Don’t reject any emotions like anger or tears that may arise. Allow them to flow as part of the experience.
• Visualize making love to the entire universe, penetrating the cosmic yoni as your awareness expands beyond physical sensations.
• Reach a state of being where you transcend into an orgasmic oneness with all of life. your consciousness from your body during the climax. While Tantra can be practiced solo, incorporating sexual intercourse can enhance the experience by fostering a deeper connection and celebrating the body.

Energetic Self-Pleasuring

• Pleasure yourself with a loving, celebratory attitude of worshipping your lingam rather than just seeking ejaculation.
• On the build-up, visualize and direct sexual energy to circulate up to your heart and third eye and throughout your entire body.
• Explore tantric techniques like uddiyana bandha (abdominal lock) to contain and spread sexual forces.
• Ride waves of rising and falling arousal without always needing to peak and come down

How to Try Tantric Sex With a Partner

1. Decoration

Create a sacred, sensual space by decorating your “love chamber” with candles, soft lighting, fresh flowers or plants, scented oils or incense. Use luxurious bedding and adornments that enhance the mood.

2. Shower or Bathe

Before your Tantric date, take time to ritually cleanse and prepare your body through bathing or showering. This helps get you in the mindful, present state.

3. Appreciation

Approach lovemaking as a sacred celebration. Spend ample time truly appreciating every inch of your partner’s body through caresses, kisses, and loving affirmations. Gaze into each other’s eyes to build heart connection.

4. Sound

Allow yourselves to make sounds of pleasure like moans, sighs, or even animalistic howls/roars without inhibition. Let your voices rise and fall with the waves of ecstatic energy you’re experiencing together. Give yourselves permission for wild abandon.

5. Erotic Play

Approach lovemaking as an elegant, multi-course experience to be savored, not rushed through. Take time to create a sensual atmosphere with candles, music, etc. Don’t treat Erotic Play as merely a “warm-up” - for many women, this is an essential part of achieving whole-body arousal and sexual pleasure.

Spend ample time caressing, massaging and connecting through the entire body, not just focused on genitals. A common guideline is 20+ minutes of sensual warm-up before penetration.

For men, having the lingam honored through loving touch allows the heart to open. For women, feeling emotionally cherished and connected with sets the stage for yoni arousal. Lose any goal mentality - embrace the ebb and flow of arousal rising and falling organically through this extended erotic play focusing on the journey rather than just the destination of sexual pleasure.

6. Afterplay

Once the lovemaking seems complete, the intimacy is not over. Take time in “afterplay” to express gratitude through continued caresses, cuddling, sweet words. For women especially, the plateau of arousal continues 20+ minutes after men may feel satiated, so this connection helps both partners feel fulfilled.

Engage in life-affirming celebrations of your union - perhaps a romantic dance or treating the energy like a welcome guest before letting it go. This establishes the bioelectric circuit of energy flowing between the masculine and feminine poles so both feel recharged rather than depleted afterward.

The key is approaching every aspect - before, during, and after - as part of an interconnected “ritual” and not rushing any stage.

Tantric Sex Positions and Practices To Try

Khajuraho Meditation

The Khajuraho Meditation is done over 7 sessions, done frequently (daily or a couple times per week). It has two phases per session:

1. Phase One (20 mins):

• Kneel opposite each other in namaste position, then raise arms to the sky, receiving blessings from higher consciousness for this union.
• Woman lays nude, man sits opposite, gazing at her body
• No touching, just visual connection as man witnesses thoughts/emotions arising
• Woman rests with eyes closed, witnessing her inner experience of being seen

2. Phase Two (40 mins):

• Make love in silence, without words but allowing sounds
• Continue witnessing inner experiences as you unite
• After lovemaking, kneel facing each other, bow, and honor this divine love

The practice is inspired by the ancient Khajuraho temples in India, where outer carvings depicting sexuality would lead initiates inward to the formless divine. Similarly, this meditation uses the natural masculine visually-driven desire and feminine energy of being seen/desired as a gateway to transcendence.

For the man, it allows him to embrace all the senses of his wholeness - animal and divine. For the woman, she can expand into her goddess nature through being fully witnessed and desired. The aim is to move beyond judgments and intermingle form and formlessness, body and spirit.

Woman on Top Position

This position allows the woman to take a more active, empowered role. With her on top straddling her partner’s legs, she can undulate her clitoris against his pubic bone while controlling the depth, angle and rhythm of penetration. The freedom of movement helps her explore what brings her to orgasmic bliss. For the man, the sensual view and feeling of her embracing her pleasure can be highly arousing.

Throne Position

In this regal pose, the man sits upright on a chair or edge of the bed while the woman lowers herself onto him, wrapping her legs around his waist. This face-to-face closeness allows deep intimacy through eye contact and caressing. The woman can rock her hips in a circular motion to stimulate her G-spot while he remains still, creating burning pleasure through this activation. Both partners' hands remain free to explore each other’s bodies.

Lion Position

From behind, the man enters the woman's yoni, draping his body over her back. This deeply primal position allows for very deep penetration and powerful thrusting. The closeness awakens animal passion - he can nibble her neck or grab her hair for added intensely. She surrenders completely to her raw, feminine energy in this vulnerable yet trusting pose. Ample erotic play ensures her arousal to avoid discomfort.

Spooning Position

This relaxing pose allows the couple to bask in intimacy through gentle penetration. The woman lies on her side as the man enters her from behind, molding his body along her back in a spooning position. His penis can remain semi-erect inside her without thrusting, allowing them to simply "plug in" to each other's energy. This yin position helps the woman expand into her feminine essence.

Yab Yum: A Classic Tantric Sex Position

The iconic yab yum stance represents the sublime union of masculine and feminine. As a central aspect of tantric couple’s practice, the woman sits on the man’s lap, wrapped around him with her legs. Chests and foreheads can touch as they breathe in unison, syncing all 7 chakras. Eye-gazing builds profound intimacy. Some versions have the woman straddling one of his legs instead for easier hip movements.

Lovers Embrace

This face-to-face position fosters romance, affection and closeness. The woman lies on her side as the man enters her, then they pull their bodies together in a warm embrace. Legs can intertwine however is comfortable. The closeness enables kissing, caressing, and easy eye contact.

Conclusion

As we reach the end of this exploration into the profound world of Tantric sex, it's clear that this ancient practice offers far more than just physical pleasure. By integrating mindfulness, energy work, and deep emotional connection, tantric sex transforms intimacy into a sacred, spiritual experience.

By incorporating the techniques, benefits, and positions outlined in this guide, you can begin to experience the transformative power of tantric sex for yourself. Remember, the journey is as important as the destination. Take your time, be present with your partner, and savor each moment of connection and discovery.

FAQ

What are the origins of Tantric sex?

Tantra originated in India as an ancient Indian sexual practice. There wise sages observed that during sexual union, one could attain a state beyond time and mind, open to universal consciousness. They began exploring how to achieve this state even without sex. Over thousands of years, this exploration and experimentation developed into a vast body of wisdom, using methods of experiential meditations.

These methods, which utilize emotions, senses, deep breathing techniques, kundalini energy, and working with chakras and intuition, were refined and passed down through guru lineages. Tantra spread through India, Tibet, China, Japan, Indonesia, and beyond, adapting to each culture it touched. While sex is an integral part of tantra exploration, it encompasses the entire chakra system and all aspects of being human.

What is the purpose of Tantric sex?

The purpose of tantric sex extends beyond physical pleasure to encompass spiritual goals such as transcendence and union with the divine. Tantric sex aims to merge sexuality, love, and spirituality into a sacred experience, fostering a deep connection between partners and a heightened state of awareness.

Author

Ma Ananda Sarita

Ma Ananda Sarita is a Tantra master, initiated into Tantra in 1973 by Osho. With over 30 years of teaching experience, she offers courses and retreats worldwide. As the voice behind this blog, Sarita offers readers a glimpse into the power of Tantra.